Fear is an emotion we experience when we perceive some sort of danger, threat, or situation that we feel might cause us harm. Of course fear is not a negative emotion as it is part of our survival mechanism. When we are in genuine danger, the fight or flight response which is triggered by fear ensures our attention is focused completely on the source of danger, and our body physically prepares us to take immediate action. If we experienced no fear, then our chances of escaping dangerous situations would be dramatically lower, and we might not have survived as a species. Fear only becomes a problem when it becomes overwhelming, preventing us from doing things we want to do, and when fear becomes a learned response in the absence of genuine danger or threat and this is where phobias develop. We are only born with 2 fears, which are the fear of loud noises and the fear of falling, both of which help keep us safe as newborns. Every other fear response we experience is a learned pattern of behaviour in response to a trigger, and so we can replace such patterns of behaviour with more helpful responses.
Our learned responses and behaviours triggered by particular fears are what we refer to a phobias. We can think of fear as a useful part of our survival mechanism, whereas phobias are unhelpful as they represent an extreme fear response, they are persistent, and more often than not the degree of danger or threat is massively overestimated. Phobias are in fact a type of anxiety disorder and can be specific to a situation (e.g. flying, the dentist, or public speaking) or specific to an object (e.g. spiders or birds).
Having a phobia is a more common problem than you might think, with an estimated 10 million people in the UK having some sort of phobia.
Signs you have a phobia include:
The 10 most common phobias in the UK:
You may be wondering how to overcome your fears and phobias with the help of a life coach. The good news is that since you were not born with your phobia, rather it is a learned response pattern, we can replace that with a more helpful response, which allows you to live your life as you wish as if you never had the phobia at all. We do this be creating change at a subconscious level since it is your subconscious mind that drives your pattern of response - you may have noticed this if you consciously know the level of genuine danger is small, yet you cannot think your way to responding differently.
During a 3 hour Fears and Phobias Breakthrough Session, we use Neuro-Linguistic Programming and Clinical Hypnotherapy to change the way in which your mind responds, beginning with changing the internal structures of how you perceive the phobia, dissociating you from the experience of the phobia to remove the anxiety response, and creating positive emotional responses to leave you confident in your ability to go forward to engage with what you once feared.